She asked for it.
Today's link love goes to Kat, because, because, because I have been reading her blog for, let me think, 5 years now?
I don't remember now where I found her link; that was back in the day when I was just discovering blogs and had started my own. I do remember perusing quite a bit of her stuff before emailing her to ask which blogs on her roll she would recommend as good reading.
She replied. She was hesitant to recommend anyone to a complete stranger because she had a troll on her site. I wrote back that I understood (although I had no idea what a troll was!) and gave her a quick summary of me and my life and single-mom status.
It took time to build up trust with Kat.
Metal-head, rocker chick, party girl who didn't drink, verging on Goth who swears by black fashion, and with a mouth as foul as the garbage can down by the darkest harbour, Kat has raised two fine, smart boys on her own with her head firmly on her shoulders - in spite of a painful, debilitating case of scoliosis that made walking, errands, and household chores a challenge.
There was something very compelling about Kat. I admit there were periods (a few days, maybe) when I was insanely jealous of her because of her loyal readership. The girl could post about the dirty dishes in the sink and get, like, 8 comments within an hour. I thought - what does this girl have that I don't?
Took me a couple of years to figure it out: Kat is addictive.
Haha! It's true! First of all, she is drop-dead gorgeous. Beautiful bone structure, insane mane of hair, great eyes. Second, she's a trooper who's fought every step of the way to make her life better.
When she finally got her back surgery, about .... 11 months ago, was it? -- she got all kinds of metal pins and rods and screws in her body, and it straightened her out. Her back, but maybe not so much her attitude. Heh.
She cusses just a wee bit less now, maybe because she does a lot of PPP stuff these days.
But through everything, she has remained the same honest, straight-forward, no-bullshit (yet tolerant to a certain point) person I knew way back when, except that now she lives with less pain and a little more money and, this I know for sure, my respect.
Love you, girl. Stole your picture. Ha!
Stay tuned next week for Link Love Saturday. It could be you! Lucky, lucky you!
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Wow. That was seriously the best link love post I have ever read about myself.
I still swear, just not so much. Maybe it's because before, I was in so much pain and fuck just described everything so perfectly...LOL
When I was at the docs the other day, I was staring at the spine poster on his wall. He asked what I was looking at and I said, I know I am fused all the way down, but to see it on a picture and see the actual numbers and length of it, I am amazed.
I think I always will be. It's huge.
Nothing to be jealous of here. I live a hard life, and sometimes it's not so bad, but I am just an ordinary person who blogs about all the ordinary things.
And I still have that troll, 5 years later, he is still obsessed with my life. I don't know why.
You can steal my pic, it's ok...LOL
Kat
Oh, the troll. The insane, no-life troll who accuses you of being a terrible mother. I think he's been in love with you all this time, like the bad boy who pulls the girl's pigtails in school, back in 1900.
I think you may be right. It's love...LOL
Kat
Kat and I have something in common then; I, too, had back surgery, but no pins or screws. I feel lucky for that. I'm just wondering ... do you make it through airport security okay, Kat? I mean, do the pins and stuff make it go off? I'm sure that's a very dumb question, but I'm not above asking it. LOL
Great post, Terry! :)
I actually don't know if it's gonna set off the detectors. I was fused last February and haven't flown yet. I will be next week though.
I have a card I have to carry with me that says I have an internal fixated metal device which may set them off. I have to by law, show it to security at airports and then let them scan or xray me in a full body scanner if they want too.
I was fused from T-3 to S-1 with titanium rods. I have 84 screws, 4 artificial discs, and 2, 4 inch long screws in my hips/leg joints.
I had anterior/posterior surgery, so that means, front and back. I have a 12 inch scar on my stomach and a 24 inch scar the entire length of my spine.
It's pretty cool looking actually.
When my surgery 1 year anniversary comes up on February 16, I am going to blog about it in detail with lots of pictures.
It was a life changing experience and to have made it a year, is amazing to me.
Feel free to ask any questions about it. I don't mind.
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Amazing story. Kat sounds like a strong person to have gone through all that.
Yep Kat's is definitely an awesome read! I've been reading her now for like 2-3 yrs.
OMG! Wow ... I'm in awe. How long did the surgery take? With all that it must've been a very long one! My mom had anterior/posterior surgery on her back, too. Unfortunately, by the time she had it done her back was in such poor shape that it really didn't help.
My back surgery was 16 years ago, so a lot has changed since then with regard to how things are done nowadays. It was a pretty straightforward operation - repairing a blown disc. I waited far too long to have it done because I was so scared, and after it was over I kicked myself for at least a year because it changed my life so drastically! I was so dumb to wait. Living with all that pain for so long just because I was a wuss. lol
Interesting about the card you have to carry. Looking forward to your anniversary post and seeing the pictures! Let us know if you make the machines go off! ;)
Perfect description of Kat. For me, it's her overwhelming ability to be honest that keeps me returning to her site. She makes no apologies for who she is and what she believes. She says what so many others only think. I plan to stick around for a long time.
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